
A little scruffier, a little balder, but the bond endures.
The most treasured gifts in the world are kind words spontaneously tendered. (Thanks Dewey)
— Jim Collins
It’s December.
Your Guide To The Delray Beach Boca Raton Lifestyle

A little scruffier, a little balder, but the bond endures.
The most treasured gifts in the world are kind words spontaneously tendered. (Thanks Dewey)
— Jim Collins
It’s December.

Thanksgiving has always been my favorite holiday.
It’s not the turkey—that I can take or leave. It’s the meaning behind the holiday—gratitude and the time you get to spend with family.
This year, of course, will be different for many American families. We are being told not to gather because of coronavirus. We are also mourning the loss of more than 250,000 plus people , more than twice the number of American soldiers who died in World War I. It’s a staggering number and it’s increasing.
Yes, 2020 has been a terrible year, and it’s not over yet.
Still, if we look there is usually something we can be thankful for. For me, I’m grateful to be alive after a bruising battle with Covid-19.
I had a close call and peered over the edge before thankfully recovering and rejoining my family, friends and work colleagues.
So this year I am thankful for a lot. I hope by sharing my thoughts I will inspire you to think about what your thankful for in your life.
Here’s a brief list. If I miss anything it’s because the list is long (also something to be thankful for) and maybe I do have a touch of Covid fog.
I’m thankful for, in no particular order:
—Community: This year, I have felt the warm embrace of our community. The outpouring of support during my battle with Covid helped me heal and my family cope. When the call went out for plasma, the community responded. I will be forever thankful.
—Prayer: This year, I learned about the power of prayer. Prayer has been a part of my life for a long time, but this year the appreciation went deeper. When I learned that prayer groups were praying for me, I was deeply touched. I believe those prayers made a huge difference and for that I am thankful.
—Family: I have always been grateful for my wonderful family. I’ve been blessed. Faced with the prospect of never seeing them again my love for them deepened. I saw their faces in my dreams and I was driven to come home.
—Friends: I am thankful for old friends and new ones too. During this trying year, relationships became more meaningful. I have been given a gift; the magic of friendship. Our ability to laugh, talk, share and show appreciation for each other has enriched my life and saved it too.
—Acts of Kindness: 2020 has been a year where I have been given innumerable acts of kindness. A retired police officer who sends me inspirational texts every single morning, a business colleague who shook the trees for plasma donations, the 9 pm prayers that warmed my heart, the E Street Band legend who personally delivered the new Springsteen album to my home, our chamber of commerce which enabled me to share my story on a webinar and then honored me with a nomination for a nice award, the endless texts from friends that included videos, songs, prayers, jokes and general messages of good cheer, the cooking of friends bringing over delicious dishes, the kindness of my amazing neighbors, Dave Wasserman’s zoom calls, Zoom happy hours arranged by Connor Lynch, Scott Savodnik’s lifelong friendship, Scott Porten’s endless generosity, Sandra Allen’s love, Gina and Mike’s prayers, Perry Don Francisco’s videos and Dave Reeves’ extra special phone calls. And the list goes on. I’m so thankful. If I didn’t mention you—please, please know I did not and will not ever forget you.
—Work: Millions of Americans are out of work. Businesses of all sizes in a variety of industries are struggling. I’m thankful I have work and benefits to weather the storm.
—Medical Heroes: I can’t say enough about the doctors and nurses at Bethesda Hospital. They saved my life and the lives of many, many others. For them, I am grateful also beyond words. My doctor Paige Morris and my pulmonologist Nevine Carp are beyond talented. We are truly lucky to have this level of medical talent serving our community.
Yes, 2020 has been a handful.
We all know the litany of woes. They are real and they are serious.
But amidst the sadness and division, the illness and the economic despair, there’s beauty. There’s hope. There’s love. There’s life. And there is a future.
It will be a brighter one—if we wish for it and if we work for it.
Meantime, I wish you and yours a Happy and safe Thanksgiving. And I pray for your safety and health.

This park in Detroit honors those lost to Covid-19.
I’m a little over two months into my Covid odyssey and here’s where I stand (or mostly sit).

One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned this year is that good and bad can co-exist. When something’s bad, it’s not all bad, and vice versa.

Sorry for the poor pic. Best I can do.
When you get to be my age you find yourself having lived a few lives.

Editor’s Note: In honor of Memorial Day.
Did you see ESPN’s “The Last Dance?”

Our golden Teddy will live in our hearts forever .
I lost my best buddy yesterday and the sadness in my heart actually hurts.
I’ve been thinking a lot about moms these days.

Armand Mouw

Ernie Simon
Last week, author/blogger/marketing guru Seth Godin wrote about “choosing” to be a citizen.
It was a short piece, but impactful.
Check it out:
“Citizens aren’t profit-seeking agents who are simply constrained by rules. Citizens behave even if there isn’t a rule about it.
Citizens aren’t craven partisans, voting for party over fact. Citizens do the right thing because they can, even if the short-term cost is high.
Citizens live by the rule of community: If everyone did what I’m about to do, would it lead to a useful outcome?
Sometimes we call citizens heroes, which is a shame, because their actions should be commonplace, not rare. The myth of success based on short-term self-interest has been disproven again and again. It seems obvious that leaving things better than you found them is a powerful step forward, because you’ll probably be back this way again one day soon.
Every successful community, every organization, every family has citizens. It’s the citizens who define the future, because their commitment to the long-term matters.”
I loved this piece, because in recent weeks we lost two amazing “citizens” who embodied that word and were devoted long term players who made a tremendous positive difference over a long period of time.
Armand Mouw was a city commissioner in the 90s, a critical time in Delray’s history. He brought gravitas and business acumen to the dais. He was a military veteran, a construction executive who founded Mouw Associates, a terrific local firm and spoke with a no nonsense common sense rationality that seems so rare today. He passed recently and although I hadn’t seen him around town lately, he was a fixture for decades and left a lasting impact. He was a really good citizen.
Same for our friend Ernie Simon, who passed last week.
Ernie was a pillar of the community for decades, a member of a pioneer family, a judge, an attorney, a devoted Rotarian and someone who deeply loved the Delray Playhouse, which is an unsung jewel in our community.
Ernie always wore a smile. He loved Delray Beach and the people in his community loved him back. He was very special.
Mr. Simon was a citizen who was rooted here, dedicated to this place and someone who made a lasting impact as a result of that dedication.
A frequent topic of this little blog is this concept of what it really means to be a village; what it takes to build a community, to put down roots, make friends, give something back, invest yourself in a place.
There are many ways to describe this concept but it can be boiled down to a single word. And that word is love.
Making a decision to serve, truly serve is an act of love. Giving your heart to a place for decades is a labor of love. Mr. Mouw did it. Mr. Simon did it and thankfully we have many examples to guide us, inspire us and if we choose— inform us too.
I’ve been thinking a lot these days about the concept of statesmanship which is defined as “skill in managing public affairs.”
It seems so rare these days.
To paraphrase a song: Where have all the lions and lionesses gone?
The great ones know how to lead, serve, compromise, take the long term view and commit to a cause. They don’t take their ball and go home if things don’t go their way. They understand that in life we win some and we lose some. They are good at building consensus and very good at explaining why sometimes tough decisions—not necessarily popular in the moment—need to be made.
They are grounded. They are future focused willing to build for a tomorrow they may not see. They are the adults in the room.
We’ve had a slew of those types of people in our community: Libby Wesley, H. Ruth and C. Spencer Pompey, Nancy Hurd, Frances Bourque, Barbara Smith, Bob Costin, Bob Currie, Bob Victorin, Kerry Koen, Bob Barcinski, Rick Overman, Vera Farrington, Chip Stokes, Bump Mitchell, Dorothy Ellington, Lula Butler, Joe Gillie, Susan Ruby, Bill Wood and a woman I have gotten to know and love with all my heart Diane Colonna. This list can go on and on and on—mayors, commissioners, police officers, firefighters, city staff, volunteers, business leaders, religious leaders and non-profit directors etc. etc.
Please don’t be offended if you weren’t mentioned on this list—I’m far from finished telling local stories.
I see more than a few bright young leaders coming up who are making some noise on a grassroots level. So I have hope for our future.
We need more citizens and it is something we choose to be; because it is the Armand Mouw’s and Ernie Simon’s who have made this a special place—unlike any other place. Progress is not accidental—sometimes you get lucky but it never lasts. Real, sustainable progress requires citizens—check that Citizens—with a capital C. It’s the Citizens who move the needle and change the game.
We should embrace them, celebrate them and build around them. We have so much more to do.
Thanks Armand and thanks Ernie for a job well done.
It’s our turn now.

Larry Garito had a memorable career at Delray Beach Fire Rescue.

Dorothy Ellington led the Delray Beach Housing Authority with kindness and a passion for people,
Later that night, a large crowd filled a banquet room at the Golf Club to celebrate the retirement of Dorothy Ellington after 32 years of service to Delray Beach including more than two decades as head of the Delray Beach Housing Authority.
Dorothy cleaned up a troubled agency and positively impacted the lives of so many by providing affordable housing to families she genuinely cared for and took the time to know. She also enriched the lives of her staff whose outpouring of love was truly touching to see.
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